Monday, August 9, 2010
Bobbi Brown - Living Beauty
However what stayed with me was what Ms.Brown wrote in her foreword. I reproduce it here for you.
"I don't know why it's not OK to age. I think that a face without lines and planes is an expressionless face - it's a face that lacks warmth and confidence. That's why I am dismayed at the number of women today who are altering their faces in an attempt to look younger. Visits to the plastic surgeon have become as commonplace as visits to the hair salon. I have to admit that there are some women who get nipped and tucked and actually look great. But I see many more who have been pulled so tight that they look completely artificial, and others who are so plumped up and frozen that they just look old. There's a very fine line between plastic surgery that looks good and plastic surgery that looks plain awful. When you go under the knife there's no guarantee of the results - and no turning back.
Of course it's very easy to feel bad. Open any magazine and you're inundated by pictures of seemingly flawless girls who are barely twenty years old (and in some cases, as young as fourteen). Models older than thirty are a rarity. Television shows set in Los Angeles and New York glorify the lives of twenty-something characters. My advice? Don't compare yourself to these images of youthful perfection - you'll always lose. It's human nature to compare, but at least do it in a realistic way, with women close to your age.
Too many women of my generation feel bad about the fact that they're no longer young. These women have a laundry list of things they don't like about themselves - wrinkles, baggy eyelids, a too-small upper lip... I could go on for days. These women are so caught up in the negative that they don't have any energy left to focus on the positive.
I believe there needs to be a fundamental change in the way we think about beauty. We can either fall into this cycle of self-loathing or we can empower ourselves with the knowledge to deal with the things that make us unhappy. I want to get rid of the stigma that surrounds aging. Aging (or getting older) should be seen as a process through which a woman can gain more vitality, strength, wisdom, and a new sense of her beauty. It really is an evolution.
Today, there are many ways for women to be their best at any age. With knowledge, a strategy, and many lifestyle changes, women can be better at forty, fifty, and sixty than they did ten, even twenty years ago."
Powerful words there.
I sincerely believe that all of us can learn something from what she says.
She maybe talking about the insecurities that plague women who are at the verge of turning 40 +, but I have seen a lot of young girls too go through teenage and their 20s & 30s insecure, plagued with misery as they look at themselves in the mirror and notice only flaws.
There is intense phobia about aging in women, who link their self-esteem with their looks. Just think about your mother, did you stop loving her just because she developed laughter lines, or that favourite teacher of yours, did you stop respecting her just because she is now 50 +.
Make up & Proper skin care can help you look your best at any age, and embrace the fact that there is more to you than your looks. Work on your hobbies and self - esteem. Develop a personality and and aura of charisma.
There is nothing more impressive or beautiful than a woman who loves herself just the way she is.